Behind this smiling face is a woman with a lot on her plate. I'm no yes man, I can say no, but sometimes it gets a little hectic because the things I've gotten myself into go awry. Then I get flustered and in over my head and stressed. I found an article on how to deal with stress that seemed to resonate with me. The fact that it turned me on to a few things that might make life less stressful meant it was worth a full read and even a blog post! I've been dealing with a lot lately. It seems more than usual. We're busy people, but our busy lives have become quite dramatic and mentally exhausting which is harder, sometimes, than physical exhaustion.
*make a mental note of how to know I'm stressed*
Tension in my body: usually this is a first symptom but I'm not always able to recognize it as stress. I have been complaining about stiff shoulders and arms lately. I bet this is why. Also, rapid typing as I try to conquer things, resulting in many mistakes that I have to go back and fix.
Breakouts: my body reacts in another way by breaking out. I bought ingredients today to create a toner
Lack of Appetite or eating just to sustain: this should be my biggest cursor to knowing I'm stressed. I LOVE eating. LOVE LOVE LOVE! So when I'm just doing it for sustenance, there's a problem.
HOW TO DEAL
See the big picture
I use this a lot to make things ok. Sometimes I misuse it. Note to self. Stop doing that. Instead I need to get out of the situation and my feelings, I tend to get really wrapped up in feelings, in order to get perspective. Breathe. I think yoga is helping with this. I notice I'm deep breathing a lot more when I'm dealing with stress.
I'm making a toner for my face with rosemary and mint essential oils. I can use this to take a moment to myself, clean my face and symbolically clean the stress away. Simultaneously, the hot water and steam should help clear my mind.
Talk to my Friends
I'm good at this one. But again, too good and misusing it. I can bitch, bitch, bitch and I need to talk things out with people. So it is really helpful for me to work things out out loud, but again, I need to leave my emotions out after awhile so I can actively reduce the stress and problem solve if necessary.
Blogging helps. I'm always incredibly appreciative of the comments and support I get through this blog. I'm not quite sure where I would be if I didn't have this as an option. I work out so many issues just typing away. I hope you don't mind my bitching. Lately, I've been thinking I need to write things in a journal first. I find myself a bit more poetic, which I feel I need in my life, and, more honest. I'm not as focused on an audience which is almost like a wall I keep coming up against.
More yoga. Less running for now, until I can run for myself and only myself. I know how to do yoga for myself so that's where I'm going with that one.
I need to nourish in so many ways. I need to nourish my body by not running to stuff my face with crap. Tonight I bought chocolate and coca cola. Should've read that article before I went out. I need to nourish my mind and my spirit. I need to nourish Matt when he needs it too. And I need to nourish Rowan in his development and throughout his whole life in so many ways. I think this word is going to stick with me. It just seems to make so much sense.
How do you cope with stress?